key

no one will manufacture a lock without a key
similarly God won't give problems without solutions

die

I am afraid to imagine that,
when I ask to God to give me more time,
God will answer : I don't have any more time to give..
and
when earthquake happened few days ago,
I just realized that...
I am afraid to die.

another untitled

I have started to write since 4 years ago. I wrote everything but mostly about happiness.I found my old writing on my digital notebooks, read again, and these make me smile..
But now writing about happiness is very very difficult for me..
I don’t know why, may be I am changing, or the world is changing, or may be I just don’t get myself, I just don’t understand myself..
I think the most difficult phase of life is not when no one understands you, but it is when you don’t understand yourself…
Yes, I don’t understand myself.
I guess I am adults. The question is, when did that happen, and how do I make it stop? Adulthood is responsibility. Responsibility, it really does suck. I get to make my own decisions, have my own life, do whatever the damn hell I choose.
May be I am changing, may be everything is changing
Change; I don’t like it, I fear it, but I can't stop it from coming. I either adapt to change or I get left behind. And it hurts to grow, anybody who tells you it doesn’t is lying. But heres the truth: the more things change, the more they stay the same. And sometimes change is good. Oh, sometimes, change is everything…

I have bad habits. We all have bad habits. We all make mistakes. We all have parts of the past we are proud of, and incidents that we regret. We all want to compensate, we all seek justice. We don't, though, all go out of our way to achieve the impossible. Some of us settle for more modest aspirations. Some of us feel daunted by the pressures and problems of everyday life. I, though, don't want to be afraid. Nor am I willing to compromise. Nor should I. If I reach for the highest standard now, I may not attain it instantly, but I'll certainly start to come surprisingly close...

did i marry the right person ?

This morning I saw infotainment and shocked by KD & Anang divorce. When I was teenager I described that they were the most romantic couple ever. Their romantic song, their family, their children are all perfect. I mean how happy they were, loved each other, how successful they were, had much much money (haha..materialistic teen).

I don’t understand why couples decided to divorce, I really don’t understand why they do that.
Okay, I am not married yet, I don’t know how life after marriage, but why?? Why do they choose divorce as the solution??? (hahaha,..why can't I just mind my own business, what is my problem??!)

I know commitments are complicated, but I think it's better to have someone, even if it hurts, even if it is the most painful thing you have done, even if it's the most painful thing you've ever had to do.

I think it's better to have someone..

okay, I don't want to make gossip, mumbling, or anything else..

This is a very good article.

Read it.

Those who are still single may learn something from here (talk to myself : learn something, stupid!! haha :D)

Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage....

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.

She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it'sweighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle.

In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse.

You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard.

In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything.

That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."

Think about the imagery of that expression.

It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and thensomething came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy.

It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?"

And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious.

But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lieswithin it.

I 'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.

But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"...

Not just a feeling…